tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post8176334561047059230..comments2023-10-30T07:37:47.833-04:00Comments on whatiwonder: balkinggreengirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-67276988192608101682010-12-15T07:17:07.924-05:002010-12-15T07:17:07.924-05:00Ally,
In the end, it doesn't make sense to do ...Ally,<br />In the end, it doesn't make sense to do it any other way - for us certainly anyhow. It has been a good thing.<br /><br />Jz,<br />Absolutely! <br /><br />Turiya,<br />I am learning more and more variations on the theme of "just tell him.....and let him decide what to do with the information." I think you're right.greengirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-61086251274525474622010-12-14T18:38:51.058-05:002010-12-14T18:38:51.058-05:00I think it's great the way he handled it... es...I think it's great the way he handled it... especially that he went right back to it after you calmed down. It's exactly what Asha has done with me in the past too. He knows when I'm simply balking or protesting... and he knows when there is really something wrong. In the first instance he'll generally take a moment to assess things and then keep going. In the second instance he always stops right away and talks to me about what happened.<br /><br />He sometimes will go back to what he was doing, sometimes he'll alter it a bit or do something all together different (like going from hard play to just making love), and sometimes he'll just hold me... but whatever he does, it always seems to be just what I need at that time.<br /><br />I truly don't think it's topping from the bottom when there is something really wrong... whether mentally/emotionally or physically. I believe it's two adults living in a particular lifestyle and acting responsibly toward one another's well-being within that lifestyle.<br /><br />*hugs*<br /><br />turiyaturiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16188596447013823792noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-27062423405539700492010-12-14T16:58:32.109-05:002010-12-14T16:58:32.109-05:00Growth comes in the most unexpected places, doesn&...Growth comes in the most unexpected places, doesn't it?<br />I'm sorry you had a bad spell but I love how the story turned out. I've had similar experiences and they really do make everything so much deeper, once you come out the other side.Jzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301793291285112859noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-44173188304202349302010-12-14T12:07:15.274-05:002010-12-14T12:07:15.274-05:00This reminds me so much of what happened to me the...This reminds me so much of what happened to me the other night. I agree that when they can recognize real distress, it means everything. If the play causes the type of damage that Jz talked about, then what's the point? It sounds like this was a blessing is disguise since you were able to talk through it and talk about some other things.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com