tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post9166841177530937872..comments2023-10-30T07:37:47.833-04:00Comments on whatiwonder: marriage, wysiwyg, and manipulationgreengirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-80228648534941710622010-06-23T22:22:04.178-04:002010-06-23T22:22:04.178-04:00turiya,
your last line is dead right - and I know ...turiya,<br />your last line is dead right - and I know this. thank you for making me see this differently.greengirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-38746476639051317902010-06-23T08:08:42.571-04:002010-06-23T08:08:42.571-04:00I think it's wonderful that he cared enough fo...I think it's wonderful that he cared enough for you to take notice of the things that were hurting you at the time... and made sure that he didn't recreate those feelings. Honestly, there's not a lot of men who would even notice, much less take the time to change his own behavior to make the woman he loves feel more secure.<br /><br />I think because he did that, you learned to trust him and maybe that helped to bring out your natural submissiveness. However it came about, you sure are one lucky woman to have such a wonderful man.<br /><br />*hugs*<br /><br />turiyaturiyahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04611694817150215324noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-36323361577780729932010-06-21T21:11:32.847-04:002010-06-21T21:11:32.847-04:00Jz,
I am - so much so. Thanks
Vesta,
I guess I s...Jz,<br />I am - so much so. Thanks<br /><br />Vesta,<br />I guess I should write abotu taht some day - it is amazing to me that we have been able to uncover more of our real selves and be closer rather than with more strife.<br /><br />David,<br />He did see me clearly it would seem, even though I didn't.<br /><br />Ally,<br />I guess it would seem that nothing has really backfired. Honestly - I have become quite ok with this - just needed to think it through.greengirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06897315716330033528noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-21441340407321710762010-06-21T14:53:30.340-04:002010-06-21T14:53:30.340-04:00I can see why you would be the way you were growin...I can see why you would be the way you were growing up that way. I agree with the others about your husband, he wanted to stay with you and adjusted so that you would fit together. It seems fine to me as long as no one is changing in a way that will back fire later.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-42638820649995751452010-06-21T01:14:40.900-04:002010-06-21T01:14:40.900-04:00As Vesta said, I see no manipulation, you say you ...As Vesta said, I see no manipulation, you say you are a wysiwyg girl and he reacted to what he saw. Simply accepting a person for what they are and making accommodations for the ways of the other.<br /><br />DavidDavidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04943867226010869367noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-35362373340221735422010-06-20T15:46:09.785-04:002010-06-20T15:46:09.785-04:00I don't see that as "manipulation", ...I don't see that as "manipulation", which sounds negative to me. I think, at the time, he was just making allowance for what he saw as a 'hot spot' in your personality. I think most couples do this, especially at the beginning and especially when young.<br /><br />It must be pleasing to see that you have moved on from that place (which most couples don't get to do).Vestahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03677044322646962128noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3865362691562112420.post-50056122641477212872010-06-20T13:04:42.823-04:002010-06-20T13:04:42.823-04:00I can understand that giving you pause. But it'...I can understand that giving you pause. But it's not like he changed his spots, just his approach. As you say, he wanted to keep you.<br /><br />And aren't you glad he did? :-)<br /><br />("cesses")Jzhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00301793291285112859noreply@blogger.com