I am very good at assuming the worst - focusing on not giving in to that is helping some. I wish i did have answers i could share. I hope things get easier for you soon.
That's a great plan! Sometimes the act of submitting, especially when I'd rather do anything else in the world but, sort of resets me and I end up feeling submissive in the process. Plus I think you get bonus points for acting submissive when you don't feel it.
i think you are absolutely right - the process has to start soemwhere- and if if isn't in my mind - the actions can help. Maybe you could hint to my husband about the bonus points...
Oh...But there has to be an "on switch" I have a rather easily tripped "off switch" so surely there is an on one somewhere? I like the whole "dimmer" idea...
Hope your switch ends up back where you want it to e soon!
I like the dimmer idea too. Somehow it's taking the lights a long time this time. Maybe for you there really is a switch - once the life things come back to earth. I hope so anyhow.
Seems like several of you are in this mood right now. I wonder if it's the weather or something? Is it winter where you all are? Or is it just too much life stress?
It does seem that way - doesn't it. It is in fact winter - although the days are getting longer now. February is always fairly dark, but spring comes each year. Thanks.
thanks Jake. I believe they will - i think - i at least - am working on trying to see how to go with the changes, the parts that are a little different now. I suppose growth is sometimes messy.
Sounds like a plan - cheering you on!!!
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thank you - that helps.
DeleteSometimes it works for me and sometimes...well, it just works for him and I endure.
ReplyDeleteBest of luck
I think he and i are both enduring right now - but the option is to quit - and we don't want that. Thank you.
DeleteLet me know how that works, will you? i'm having a very similar problem right now...i don't know if i can do it.
ReplyDeleteI am very good at assuming the worst - focusing on not giving in to that is helping some. I wish i did have answers i could share. I hope things get easier for you soon.
Deleteperhaps your on switch is more like a dimmer and you are slowly turning it up. Getting brighter a little at a time as opposed to all on at once.
ReplyDeletethank you - that is a really nice way of thinking about it - and i can see it getting a little brighter, which helps.
DeleteSounds like good advice to me :) I wish us both luck!
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The first part is my husband's instructions to me. he knows how i get. Good luck to you too!
DeleteThat's a great plan! Sometimes the act of submitting, especially when I'd rather do anything else in the world but, sort of resets me and I end up feeling submissive in the process. Plus I think you get bonus points for acting submissive when you don't feel it.
ReplyDeletei think you are absolutely right - the process has to start soemwhere- and if if isn't in my mind - the actions can help. Maybe you could hint to my husband about the bonus points...
DeleteJust sending hugs...lots of them.
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thank you mouse - i do appreciate that.
DeleteOh...But there has to be an "on switch" I have a rather easily tripped "off switch" so surely there is an on one somewhere?
ReplyDeleteI like the whole "dimmer" idea...
Hope your switch ends up back where you want it to e soon!
I like the dimmer idea too. Somehow it's taking the lights a long time this time. Maybe for you there really is a switch - once the life things come back to earth. I hope so anyhow.
DeleteSeems like several of you are in this mood right now. I wonder if it's the weather or something? Is it winter where you all are? Or is it just too much life stress?
ReplyDeleteIt does seem that way - doesn't it. It is in fact winter - although the days are getting longer now. February is always fairly dark, but spring comes each year. Thanks.
DeleteWe're still right there with you, too, greengirl. Here's hoping things get better for all of us!
ReplyDeletethanks Jake. I believe they will - i think - i at least - am working on trying to see how to go with the changes, the parts that are a little different now. I suppose growth is sometimes messy.
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