His response to my previous post was along the lines of, "So, it sounds like you want me to be more of a pain in the ass all the way around"
Yes and no
That's kind of the jist
In a number of ways, "more of a pain in the ass" would be good for me
But i hate the thought that you think I'm telling you what to do or how to be
And i hate feeling like i'm doing that
But i need a way to tell you these things - for all the reasons i mentioned
It is hard for me to just say something and then trust that how you act on it is all up to you
Of course there are lots, lots more words in my head - but they are sooo redundant.