He still canes me daily - the number of the date, although he keeps threatening that next year he will start at one and add another each day till 365....
His new twist is that i'm not allowed to count. I guess i don't accept it or respond the way he would like when i know how many are left. I do (did) find myself more gritting it out than letting it happen. Maybe that's what he meant.
Not counting though is like asking someone to see words and not read them. I had to use tricks to keep myself off the count - loudly (in my head), "3, 10, 4, 2, 8, 8, ......." Which kept me from knowing how many had finished and how many were left, but still I was more toughing it out than anything else. Although, if there were enough dates, i would eventually let go and open up to it.
Oddly, when it's not the date/maintenance caning, when it's whatever impact because that's what we do - i never count. He always has a number in mind, and (apparently) we always get to that number. But since i never know what that number is, I stopped counting a long time ago. [I wonder if he knows this????]
This morning (with 4 or 5 days of catching up to do), i discovered that i didn't count at all, didn't use any tricks, my mind was just there and open from the start. I wonder if he knew that too???