little things that are really big

On what he finds attractive in a woman:
At a formal-ish shin-dig he pointed out a woman - she was tall, statuesque, of a certain age, not particularly fit, not a classic beauty, she was wearing a bright orange dress, fairly clingy, cut up to here and down to there.... but she exuded confidence, not arrogance or obnoxiousness, she was just clearly very comfortable in her own skin.  That is what i find attractive in a woman - that kind of confidence.


On my being one more responsibility, one more thing in his life he has to take care of:
Especially when things are not so great with our son, who has to fight his own battles at this point in his life, and his job where he has way more responsibility than he does power, and life in general where no one really has actual control of much beyond themselves.... I need to have one person, one thing that i can help, who listens and lets me take care of, where i have some control of how things go.