Wednesday, April 1, 2015


And the 7 questions

1)  You win £5,000 what do you spend it on, nothing boring like bills etc...for yourself, both, home etc?

So - that's about $7400. Totally free money?   And all my bills are paid (including kids' college)....?   I think i would hire a personal shopper and revamp my wardrobe.  I have no skill whatsoever in clothes, style, fashion.... And i am not exactly a runway model size, and i have impossible proportions.  It would be like a gift for both of us actually - i hate packing for trips, dawdle in the mornings and get cranky when we go out somewhere nice - all because i have to choose clothes.

2)  Your significant other, gives you the option of doing something kink wise, for one night, your choice, whatever you like, free reign..what you going to do?

As little time and privacy as we've had lately, i should say that anything at all would be lovely.  But - those constraints will end eventually and this is a fantasy anyhow.  I think i would like to go to a public event.  I think i would love to see other people interacting, not even just playing, but simply interacting.  Since it's a fantasy, maybe i would lose my self-consciousness and join in.

3)  Breakfast in bed, chilling together or a night out at your favourite restaurant?

You can all snicker, but one of the best parts of our honeymoon was breakfasts.  It was a tiny little room with a tiny balcony in a tiny little  hotel overlooking the port city.  Every morning a tray arrived with a pot of strong coffee and rolls and fruit. We would open the doors, listen to the city waking up and lay around planning our day.  Best way to do breakfast in bed EVER.  Can i do that for my choice?

4)  Whats the last music album you bought/downloaded?

Hmm - i really haven't.  I have two teenage sons who have vastly different tastes in music from each other, and a husband who likes to have background noise - music, radio, news.  There is enough music and other noise going on that, when i have the choice, i choose quiet.  That may change as they move on to college, but for now, i choose quiet.

5)  What advice would you give your 18 year old self looking back, knowing what you do know now, about choose?

To make relationship (romantic and otherwise) choices intentionally and then to be true to my choices.  Too often i just let things happen with people who were important to me (friends, family, and romances) without looking at what i was doing or putting in any effort or really making, or breaking, any connection.  I'm sure there are an awful lot of things in did at 18 that i should want to go back and change or see differently, but people are important and i didn't act that way often enough.

6)  New shoes or a new dress? why that choice? you cant have both lol

See above about no fashion sense, impossible body (dresses especially are NOT made for my proportions)... So shoes are an easy choice.  I have very average, very easy to fit feet and i kinda like shoes anyhow.

7)  Do you have any rules/expectations you wish you didnt have or are there rules/expectations you dont have but would like?

Left to myself - i would absolutely not shave so often.  Since it's the only real expectation he has about my appearance though, i wouldn't wish to get rid of it.  So probably no to the first part of the question.  Sometimes i wish he would lay out expectations for every facet of my life - the thinking being that i would then stop struggling and suddenly be perfect in every way.  Clearly i'm not too bright in my fantasy life - so probably no to the second part as well.

So - 7 questions from me:
1 - If you were going to create a blog award, what would it be called or be about?

2 - How would you describe your style of decorating.

3 - If you could have your dream job/occupation, what would it be?

4 - Are there any people in your (vanilla) life who you think might actually be kinky, or who you look at and think "no way, but, yet, maybe..."

5 -  Where would you put yourself (the sum total of your relationship) on a spectrum from incredibly stern and rigid to teasing and lighthearted?

6 - If you had a fairly close friend with whom you really could discuss these types of things, do you think you would still blog?

7 - If you had more time (in your day, in your week, in your life) what would you do differently?

I'm going to nominate the people who nominated me, tori and sofia (answers to come shortly) because i like their blogs and i like conversations that go back and forth.  And also Jz though she hates that.  And lil though i get the impression she's buried, so really -  whenever is good.  No obligations to think up new or any questions though - i do see how this could be never ending...

People fascinate me.  And i have pretty limited time to do this blogging thing.  I would love to read far and wide, but i just can't seem to make it fit.  i would love to nominate all the blogs i do keep up with, but that, sadly, doesn't fit either.


  1. I love reading these....those balcony breakfasts sound perfect! Making intentional choices...something we should all try to do more...thanks for the answers.
    hugs abby

    1. thanks abby - maybe during retirement we can re-create those breakfasts.... I do wish i had the knack for carrying through on being intentional more consistently.

  2. Thank you... Quiet and breakfast in bed just him and I more the focus... Love those as a mother of four and a grandmother of three I enjoy peaceful moments.

    1. melanie - welcome - and yes - it is a lot of nostalgia and a good bit of wishful thinking. quiet and peace are so, so important.

  3. Thanks for playing along :)

    Those breakfasts sounds lovely, intimate which generally isnt associated with breakfast, sounds just ideal.

    Oh i am so with you on the shaving, i hate it, if i could get away with the only part i would shave is underarms lol

    well thank you for the return back, i like the questions, different, so off to do them now!

    1. tori - and thank you. i am, as it turns out, procrastinating on going to shave right now - but there's no way he's budging on this one.....

  4. Love how thoughtful your replies are!

    With you on #1--I hate clothes, well the choosing of clothes can be so stressful.

    1. bleuame - i just don't understand how some people find it so easy - or even enjoy it, or want to make a career of it. Thanks.

  5. Great answers! I particularly like your advice to your 18 year old self - that would have been helpful for me to hear also. Thanks for the questions - it'll be fun answering!

    1. sofia - thank you. I do wish i could be more consistent, but at least now i recognize what it is - and what it isn't. thank you.

  6. I giggled at the shaving answer... I cannot tell you how many times I've thought to myself (as the blind fat person attempts to see over her tummy without glasses in order to properly wield a razor on her most delicate of parts,) "Man, am I glad I only have to do this once a week!"
    (Sorry, is that TMI?) ;-p)

    Thank you for my nomination. (<<I'm practicing being gracious, can you tell?)
    I love the questions! They'll show up soon. :-D

    1. Jz - hmm - yes, the risk factor is part of it with the shaving - though my husband is the blinder one. Not TMI - but i am a bit jealous. Waiting patiently for my turn at your answers.....

  7. I couldn't help it, but lol @ not to bright in fantasy life (sounds like me), and the shaving thing (also sounds like me).

    Thank you for the nomination! I might not get to it for a little while, but I love that I now have something to blog about besides whine!

    1. lil - yes - sadly - it's not the only context in which i'm not too bright - but i'm definitely not there.