I told him i felt disconnected, adrift, kinda confused and a bit lost. Not that i worry about us long term, but just not at all right in the here and now. I explained sfp's yo yo analogy - that i feel like he winds me closer and tighter, then lets me drift further away, then, sometimes, at the last minute, he reverses and pulls me back up to him. And that sometimes i feel like he lets me go too far and that it takes a lot of 'stop and rewind the string' to be able to get going again.
The obvious implication of my using this analogy was that i want him to be responsible for the winding, the up and the down, the working of the whole system.
His response to me, when i told him i felt far away and adrift, was, "so, then- come back to me."
Lots for me to think about in those two simple views of things.