He can get me where he wants me.
We've spent the past three years learning that - he to move me around to the way he wants me, and I to cooperate with him when he does.
I'm not sure that's quite enough though.
Cooperating with him is a step, it's something, but it's fairly passive - more work sometimes, but mostly not.
It feels good, I like it, i want his hands on me and his power over me.
But it's destructive to the Us - for me to wander off and wait for him to come get me.
I have to learn to get myself to where he wants me.