I came to bed with clothes on - very sexy flannel pj's and an even sexier sweatshirt.
btw - it's been a hard and fast rule, since forever - no clothes in bed - there are very few exceptions, even in the 57 degree bedroom with no flannel sheets (I know - poor me - he will actutally lie on my side of the bed to warm it for me if i wait to get in - he's a nice guy)
so - i was feeling something - horny, needy, bratty, wound up, wanting attention, wanting to play - nothing serious or intense - just play. To him - i imagine i was giggly, annoying, irritating and - well - bratty.
I thought, hoped, he might want to "punish" me for being bratty.
No Go. Deadpan - he warned, gave threatening looks, warned again, put his glasses back on. Deadly serious - he asked me if i liked that particualar sweatshirt? more than him? and began to roll over with his back to me.
So very much not the response i was hoping for. Of course i took the clothes off. I really, really don't want to be shut out - esp in bed.
And of course he decided i should make myself useful to him, which i did - and which always leaves me turned on and needier - and completely unsatisfied (unless you think that being of service to him should be satisfaction in and of itself - and sure, it is, but not of the kind i was looking for exactly)
And really - i knew absolutely it would go this way - never a doubt in my mind - it would have been inconsistent with everything i know about him for him to have done anything else.
So why do i try????
Sorry it didn't go as planned. So far I've fought off the urge to be bratty...but I know the day will come :-)
ReplyDeletegreengirl,
ReplyDeleteI so hate it when bratting plans backfire. There's nothing like a toasty warm back side to keep you warm and night and make you sleep like a baby.
hugs,
serenity
So why do i try????
ReplyDeleteThink small child touching hot stove...
;-)
At least he warms your side of the bed. In our cold house, I'm the bedwarmer. BBbbrrrr.
ReplyDeleteHi gg, I wonder...is there a way ask for what you want/need, to let him know how you are feeling?
ReplyDeleteSara
Haha, I'm exactly the same way. Playfully (I think) hinting at what I want only to be sorely disappointed by my husbands response (who would have responded much the same way yours did, while I was wanting much the same of what you did, if no clothes to bed was a rule of ours).
ReplyDeleteyes I agree, why indeed?
ReplyDeleteDamn! i feel that disappointment!
ReplyDeletepoor you.
Lx
Hawk,
ReplyDeleteWelcome. I don't do this very often - and it never works the way i want it to. Sometimes i get into a strange mood though...
Serenity,
It is nice, isn't it.
Jz,
Or maybe poking a bear with a stick to make sure it's really a bear?
Kelly,
We struck a deal years ago - he hates flannel sheets - so he warms my side in exchange for no flannel - kind of a silly thing - but i suppose everyone has those. And, yea - bbbrrrr - i think i'll keep my deal.
Sara,
Welcome, Learning to ask has been something new, often difficult, and certainly ongoing. I think this was really a case of poking at him and at the whole structure a bit to make sure it was all still there. Of course - there are probably more direct ways to ask that question too. Thank you.
Alice,
It is confounding that they respond their way and not the way we want sometimes - of course - it's also reassuring.
Sir J,
I think - what I said above to Sara. An indirect way to start a conversation?
littleOne,
I do wonder, every once in awhile, if I would remain so interested, involved, submissive maybe - if I were always satisfied. I think probably not. Of course - i think there's a risk to being disappointed too often also.
gg - I hate when that happens... :)
ReplyDeleteally - indeed - sometimes the starts just don't align.
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