I guess he can tell me how to feel - but it doesn't really work well quite that directly.
There is a lot he can do to affect my mood, to cause good or bad feelings. He can tell me to do or not do things. He can set the environment, he can manipulate circumstances to influence how I feel about a topic or event. He can make decisions he knows will please me, or upset me, or not phase me either way. He can ask things of me that challenge me and make me feel good if I succeed or feel bad if I fail. His mood, actions or inaction, and words all greatly impact my mood at a given moment or my general impressions and feelings towards things. He has known and done and taken advantage of all of these for a long time; that's human and that's the nature of intimate relationships.
There is real life though. And he can't take away stress or anxiety or fear or nervousness or anger. I can do what he asks - abide by his decisions - good, bad or indifferent - but I do still experience feelings and moods and mental turmoil. Most often my feelings are good ones - no conflict, no problem - but what about when I am angry, distressed, stressed, frustrated, or hurt- in general, or because of his actions in particular?
At work, with strangers or acquaintances or even perhaps with friends - I can put on a face and hide how I feel about something in particular - or my mood in general. But should I do this with him - what is the line between disrespectful and honest? Obviously - I don't think that my never expressing my feelings to him is a great idea. On the other hand, walking around in a pout or angry funk all the time is no answer either.
I wonder this because I need to find the right balance - it is important. I am just learning to really trust him with all my feeling, thoughts, emotions, but I get stuck on feeling like I need to protect him from the burden of me.